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Frequently Asked Questions

Thinking about working with Ruffled by Grace? Here’s what you need to know.

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Wedding, Elopement, and Vow Renewal Questions

An elopement is a deeply intimate ceremony, typically just for the two of you, designed to be simple, romantic, and personal. It’s perfect for couples who prefer a quiet celebration, often in an unforgettable setting like Paris.

A wedding blessing, on the other hand, is a meaningful ceremony that acknowledges your commitment and celebrates your love—whether you’re renewing vows, having a small gathering, or seeking a spiritual blessing for your marriage. It’s ideal for couples who want a more formal or communal experience, often with family and friends present.

Your wedding blessing in France is a symbolic ceremony, which means it is not legally binding. For more details on the legal requirements and process, click here.

Yes, absolutely.

In my work of love and blessing, it’s crucial to honor and care for those who have historically been excluded from the love of Christ and the life of the church. The inclusion of all people, regardless of background or identity, is an urgent cultural and theological issue.

As an ordained pastor, I am proud to be part of a church that not only values the inherent dignity of all people but also has the humility to apologize when new understandings of love and justice emerge. The Human Rights Campaign highlights denominations that are safe for marginalized communities, particularly the LGBTQIA+ community, and I am proud to say that the Presbyterian Church (USA) is among them.

You can click here to read my full statement of inclusivity.

Friends and family are more than welcome to participate in your ceremony in meaningful ways. From readings to music to prayers, Michelle will work with you to incorporate loved ones into your special day. Please discuss participation details with Rev. Wahila in advance.

Pets are an important part of many couples’ lives, and why shouldn’t your furry friend be part of your special day? We’d be happy to include them in your ceremony. However, please note that some venues may have restrictions on pets, so we’ll work with you to ensure your pet’s presence is both welcomed and enhances your celebration.

Yes, absolutely! Rev. Michelle is delighted to travel to other destinations for your ceremony. Whether you’re envisioning a celebration in the French countryside, another European city, or a special location close to your heart, we can make it happen. Please reach out through our contact form to discuss your dream location and details.

Absolutely! Rev. Michelle will guide you in creating vows that are meaningful, personal, and uniquely reflective of your relationship. Whether you’re looking for heartfelt, creative, or traditional words, she’ll help you craft vows that speak to your love story.

Rev. Wahila is an English-speaking officiant, but she is happy to incorporate a bit of French into your ceremony if you’d like. Whether you wish for just a few French phrases or a more substantial bilingual experience, she can collaborate with translators or family members to create a seamless, meaningful ceremony that speaks to everyone in attendance.

Yes! Our packages are always personalized and fully customizable to fit your unique needs and vision. If you don’t see exactly what you’re looking for, simply ask! We’ll tailor your experience to ensure it’s everything you’ve dreamed of.

The first step is to contact us here to confirm availability and reserve your ceremony date! To secure your date, a signed contract and a non-refundable 30% retainer fee is required.

Ruffled by Grace hosts a limited number of weddings on the La Fauvelière property. This idyllic countryside setting is perfect for the couple who wishes to have the charm of rustic French life woven into their special day. This highly bespoke experience is one that will never be forgotten. From the private chef to walking the gardens to select flowers, our skilled planner will take care of every detail for you. Please use the contact form to inquire about this exceptional service.

Premarital counseling is highly recommended for couples who wish to strengthen their foundation before the big day. Michelle is fully qualified to offer premarital counseling services tailored to your relationship and spiritual needs.

For couples seeking a trusted and comprehensive counseling experience, Michelle partners with Soul Spa Seattle, an organization dedicated to helping couples build a lasting and loving marriage. You can learn more about their premarital counseling offerings here.

If you prefer to work with a pastor or counselor in your home country, Michelle is also happy to assist in connecting you with a qualified professional.

Yes, Rev. Wahila works with a team of Paris professionals dedicated to making your wedding dreams come true. Once you book your ceremony with Rev. Wahila, you will have access to her preferred vendors list. This preferred list of vendors includes those who will work with the utmost integrity and expertise.

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Questions about Rev. Wahila’s Book, Ruffled by Grace

In the US, you can order your copy on the following websites:
– Amazon US: click here

In France, you can order your copy on the following websites:
– Amazon France: click here

You can also order from Bookshop.org, Barnes & Noble, or direct from the Publisher.

Yes! I have signed copies as well as signed bookplates that you can order to put into whatever copy you buy. Please contact me for more details.

Yes! Please contact me here if you’re interested in hosting one.

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Preaching and Speaking-Related Questions

Yes. Among other things, Ruffled by Grace can provide services for family worship, children’s ministry, Holy Week, Advent, Family Christmas, “The Longest Night” or “Blue Christmas,” as well as services of “Light & Breath” and various intergenerational worship experiences.

Whether you’re looking for a private service for something like a house blessing, unique baptism liturgy for worship, or are having an event or retreat for a group, Rev. Wahila is available to tailor services for your needs. She is also available to preach and lead worship in your local congregation by request.

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Retreat and Event-Related Questions

La Fauvelière is in the countryside on the edge of the Loire Valley, near Le Mans. It’s easily accessible from Paris by car or by train.

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Michelle’s Wish for You

Rev. Wahila and the team of Paris professionals with whom Michelle works are dedicated to making your wedding, event, and retreat dreams come true. Everything at Ruffled By Grace is curated to create memorable experiences that touch the heart and will be with you for a lifetime. Rev. Wahila’s hope is that you will feel cared for throughout your planning and event. Working with energy, intelligence, imagination and love to bring to life a vision is one of Rev. Wahila’s greatest joys. Her hope for you is that you will know how very much you are loved.

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When we first met Michelle as we were planning our destination wedding in Paris, we knew instantly she was the one to officiate. Planning from the States had us unsure of how we would know when we had connected with the right person, but the moment we met Michelle via Zoom, her calm, genuine presence settled us right away. She listened to our story with such care, asking thoughtful questions with a warmth that felt like catching up with a dear friend. Her beautiful spirit and kind energy shone through, making it clear she was the perfect fit for our day.

On our wedding day, Michelle was incredible. She wove our story into a ceremony that felt so deeply personal, striking just the right balance of heartfelt and real. Our guests, all of whom traveled far, couldn’t stop talking about how her sincerity and quiet confidence made the moment so special. She had this way of holding space for us, making our destination wedding feel intimate and true, despite the whirlwind of planning a wedding so far away from home.

Even though we’re back in the States at home and Michelle is in Paris, we’ve stayed connected through the years. We exchange messages, sharing updates about life and what’s next. Her warmth carries through every conversation, and it’s clear she’s not just an officiant but someone who genuinely cares. Michelle’s a rare person—her heart and authenticity made our wedding unforgettable, and we’re so grateful to still have her in our lives.

– The Shaar Family